How to Solve the Biggest Problem with Dreams

Follow Your Dreams-2

You’ve heard it so many times “follow your dreams” – sounds inspiring doesn’t it? Easy to do? Not so much. The biggest problems with dreams are that for many they remain just that. Dreams. Tony Robbins is more a realist. He advises us that goals are dreams with deadlines. To realise a dream, you have to work for it. But it can still be fun. Want to know how? Read on.

At Connecting Women Across Gippsland two weeks ago, I gave a Pecha Kucha presentation about following my dreams. These five steps explain how I arrived here. Living my dream.

1. Know Your Outcome

Think about what you want. Be really clear about your vision. Then write down the answers to these questions:

  • Is my dream really compelling to me?
  • What do I want to happen?
  • What is the purpose of my dream?
  • Is my goal / outcome specific, measurable, achievable, realistic & timely (S.M.A.R.T.)

Why write your answers? Because it’s the difference that makes the difference. Those who write their goals down accomplish significantly more than those who don’t.

Goals are dreams with a deadline

2. Take Action

The key to this is to take small steps daily towards your dream. There is no ‘one’ thing to wait for. Take ANY action. In ANY direction. Just do something!

What are 10 small steps you can take over the next 10 days to build momentum? Do that.

3. Sensory Acuity

Are you awake and fully aware? Or are you moving through life on autopilot? So many of us live on autopilot. It’s like driving down a road you know well and zoning out for most of the trip.

Tap into your awareness by following these suggestions:

  • Pay attention to what you are doing and how you are feeling
  • Notice your surroundings – listen and see what is happening around you

Then check back in regularly to see if you are making progress towards your dream. If you’re not, see step 4.

15 You move in the direction of what you consistently think about

4. Behavioural Flexibility

Have you ever tried something once and given up because you couldn’t do it? If something is unfamiliar then you might need to try a few different ways to get to your destination. So if what you did doesn’t work – try something different. And if that doesn’t work, try something different. Repeat until successful.

To practice this, identify one aspect of your behavior that you seldom use. Next time you are in a similar situation, do the opposite and see what happens!

5. Physiology of Excellence

Your physiology includes:

  • The way you hold your body
  • Rate of breathing
  • Facial expressions
  • Movement
  • Vocal range

Try this exercise to see how changing your physiology can change your mental state in a minute. Stand in a way that you would if you were depressed. Shoulders hunched. Eyes to the ground. Head down. Then say, “I feel fabulous”. Next stand the way you do when you are confident. Shoulders back. Head up. Smile on your face. Now say “life is terrible”. Notice the difference? Remember that emotion is created by motion. If you are not happy with your emotion, change your physiology. You’ll be surprised how quickly your mood shifts.

Motion Creates Emotion

Want to find out more? Contact for a complimentary, no-obligation discovery session so we can find out if we’re a great match. Here is what our clients are saying about coaching by Inspiring Success:

What I liked the most were the various tools and exercises/activities we used to break down the barriers I had created in my mind. Thank you Vanessa you have been an inspiration, I truly believe there is no such thing as cannot, just varying degrees of can. – Sophie M, 2015

The more relaxed and safe Vanessa made me feel, the more I learnt how to live my life with significance, meaning and a philosophy of working smarter not harder, in all facets of my life. – Vicki O, 2014

Our sessions were often confronting, always engaging and ultimately enjoyable. Vanessa has provided me with a wide range of tools that I am not only using, but have become reliant upon to reach my maximum potential as a leader and a person. – Mark S, 2015


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