How to overcome a big setback

It's pretty tough to take sometimes, but things don't always go as planned.

Whether you're a leader in an organisation or you run your own business, things don't always turn out the way we want them to. Maybe you apply for a job and you miss out. Maybe you're contracting for a big job with a client and it goes to somebody else. 

No matter how you turn up and the effort you put in, it's not the result you want.

So how do you overcome these big setbacks?

Here are the 3 things to keep in mind when this happens to you.

1. Firstly, your job, your business, is not you. It's not your identity. So when we say this thing failed or the outcome was a failure, please remember that YOU are not the failure. When you believe you are the failure, the negative self-talk spiral can kick in and that never ends well!
2. Give yourself 24 hours before you start to critique and review. When we get the bad news, generally we have an immediate emotional reaction. If we start to unpick it at that time, we probably create (or add to) a downward self-talk spiral. After 24 hours, look at what you did well and look at what you need to improve on next time around. 
3. Allow yourself to feel the emotion. If you're disappointed, if you're sad, if you're frustrated, it's okay to sit in that. Because when we try to push the emotional away it always comes back. Instead, when you sit in it and experience it, you allow it to be fully present. This gives you a gift of being about to move past it. Remember - what you resist will persist!

I trust that's been useful for you and you come back and look at this again the next time something like that happens and give yourself a break.

Which one of my 3 tips have you found work for you the best? Hit reply and let me know